• blog update,  Introversion

    3 Weeks

    In 2006, I traveled to New Orleans with my college classmates to participate in relief efforts post a hurricane known as Katrina. Three weeks later, in early April, I was back at school and struggling with some emotions. As I showered, as I did on a regular basis, I broke down in tears. What was wrong with me? Where did this passion and anger and sadness come from? I realized, as an introvert and extremely slow processor, that all the mental and emotional anguish of what the Katrina victims had experienced, and what we had assisted with, had finally caught up with me. Fast forward to last Friday. It had…

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    Grace Expectations

    A few weeks ago, right before falling asleep, I began stressing about the holidays. It was the strangest thing, because it is my favorite time of year. I was thinking about to do lists,  travel plans, family dynamics and how busy the next month could potentially be. Then I read this blog post, which put my mind at ease. This season isn’t one that has to be stressful or busy. We choose for it to be that way. The great expectations I had placed upon myself weren’t required. The author presented a challenge: “Write down everything you feel like you MUST do this holiday season, and then prioritize. What do…

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    Too many ideas

    What do you do when you have too many ideas and you don’t know how to organize them? I’m at that point as I try to establish a better flow in my daily routine. There are so many things I want to do on a daily or every other day basis, but it’s trying to fit it all in (or recognize that I need to rearrange). I love my mornings and find a lot of my creative time in the quiet. I don’t like being rushed out the door and I want to fill the time better. I also want to go to bed at a decent hour so that…

  • Introversion,  unexpected blessings

    Four Years

    Earlier this week, Facebook memories reminded me that it’s been four years since we moved to the mid-atlantic. That number is pretty significant in many personal and worldly cases: Four years since we got married… Four years since the last Olympics… Four years since the last presidential election… But I made another realization about four year milestones in my life since graduating from college. In both places I have lived, it has taken four years each time to establish friendships and truly feel rooted.  FOUR YEARS. I moved to Michigan right out of college in 2007 to start a new job. I had been surrounded by people my own age and…

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    Where I Do My Best Thinking

    Ever woken up in the middle of the night and needed to write down a bunch of thoughts? Some people keep a notepad and pen by their bed for that very reason. Some people experience this sensation in the shower or early in the morning with their cup of coffee. I wish any of those were my scenario, but the truth of the matter for me is that I do my best thinking in the car. Not so easy to pull over on the highway when a dozen thoughts are running through your mind, right? I will be listening to a podcast or music and have to turn it off, because the…

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    The Voice on the Other End

    I have discussed my disdain for talking on the phone in previous posts, I am sure of it. But for some reason, it’s a dislike that I continue to analyze and desire to figure out how to take advantage of, because it’s an important tool to connect with far away friends and family. I like talking on the phone if it means I get to catch up with an old friend, or I get to set a date to see someone when I am in town. But phone calls are also one of those things I will procrastinate until I HAVE to do them. As an introvert, whether it’s face…

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    Back to the Small Talk Series: Hairdressers!

    I can’t believe I didn’t think of this while writing the Small Talk Series, but I realize on my most recent visit to the hair salon, how good stylists have to be at small talk! It was a revelation that I pondered on quietly during my hair cut. Because, you see, as an introvert, I don’t mind the silence at all! Sure, I engage in the small talk, and if it’s a good stylist, they can keep the conversation going the whole time. But usually there are lulls in the conversation, which I don’t mind at all, but I always wonder if the stylist feels awkward…(and it’s my assumption that…

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    Small Talk Series: How to make small talk into more meaningful conversation

    My final post is about how to make small talk into more meaningful conversation. As we have learned from experience and from thoughts shared, small talk is necessary (evil or not). It’s an introduction to a relationship between two people. It’s a way to break the silence or awkwardness of a new encounter.  It provides a shallow connection, which may be sufficient, or opens the door for more in-depth conversation. So, for those of us that want to take the next step in the conversation, how do we do it? In my line of work, small talk is often with people I am familiar with and am also looking to,…

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    Small Talk Series: Why Small Talk is So Hard for Me

    Ok, it’s taken a little longer than planned to finish up this series, but with some input from a friend, I’ve got TWO more posts on the subject this week instead of just one! Today’s post is the answer to the question: Why is small talk so hard for me? A few books, (in recent years), have been written about introverts. Each of the following I would highly recommend, to give you a better picture from an introvert’s perspective. A fellow blogger wrote a review of the book “Quiet” by Susan Cain, here. It’s a book I started reading and just haven’t made time to finish. I would definitely recommend…

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    Small Talk Series: Television

    I forgot to give props to James for providing the Elevator Talk topic for the Small Talk Series. Next up: Television, recommended by Heidi G. and seconded by Greg. So, some of us watch television and some of us dont’t. Even among those of us who watch television, it varies widely what we watch. The invention of DVR and TiVo allowed us to watch our favorite shows on our own time. The invention of Facebook made it difficult to go more than a few hours without our favorite show’s plot being spoiled for us. GoT?HIMYM?SOTYCD? The acronyms are even worse. People are busy so they don’t want to spell things…