• Introversion

    Small Talk Series: Elevator Talk

    I think I would rather listen to the elevator music than have any type of conversation while waiting to get to my destination! So….awkward. But, why? The majority of the time, you are in the elevator with complete strangers. Also, most people are thinking about where they are going, what their day holds, the next task on their to do list and a myriad of other things. No one wants to engage in conversation, especially if it’s only for a few seconds. (Unless you are an extrovert, then you just want to break the silence!) But I have had a handful of pleasant small talk conversations in elevators, especially if…

  • Introversion

    Small Talk Series: Marriage? Kids?

    Thanks to my friend, Jamie, for offering this topic up. I didn’t truly understand the extent of its awkwardness until I was married. I try to understand that for a lot of people, the natural steps to their conversations with people in relationships is: What about marriage? What about kids? And then if you decide to have one kid, they ask about the next one. But while this might be the steps two people decide to take in life, often times it’s not, or not all timed out, and/or it’s not anyone else’s business. Getting married and having kids are two topics that people have the most opinions about and…

  • Introversion

    Small Talk Series: My Facebook Status

    I knew Facebook was going to become a dreaded small talk point of conversation soon after this occurred: I had put up a mundane post about painting my newly owned home.  A few days later, someone came up me at work and asked about it.  I didn’t even remember posting about it, and then they had created this small talk conversation by knowing something about me without physically asking me. After that experience I knew two things:1) I had to be more aware of what I was posting on Facebook and;2) I had to be prepared to small talk about it. Since that post, I have learned that small talk…

  • Introversion

    Small Talk Series: The Weather

    Wow! I got such a great response when I asked the question: “What topics of small talk do you dislike?” I will have plenty to discuss in the never several entries! Please comment with your thoughts, your feedback is appreciated! First of all, let’s define “small talk”. The all-knowing Wikipedia says, “Small talk is an informal type of discourse that does not cover any functional topics of conversation or any transactions that need to be addressed.” So, as I said in the previous post, this first topic will be the one we all know and love (or hate): the weather. What I found when I typed “small talk + weather” in Google…

  • Introversion

    Small Talk Series

    I’m going to try my first series in this blogging adventure. In the last few days I’ve gotten rather annoyed with weather being a topic of conversation. Why does everyone talk about it? Why does it come up so often? And I realized it was one of the small talk conversations I’ve grown to dislike talking about as an introvert. Now, if you are an introvert you understand my disdain for small talk.  But small talk is part of daily conversation, meeting new people and even building relationships. As much as I dislike it, I have to engage in it on a pretty regular basis in my life and work,…

  • Introversion

    Quiet

    I started reading this yesterday. As I read the introduction, I realized how important it is for me to read this book. Since my freshman year of college, I have latched on to the importance of this element in my identity. Being an introvert plays a much larger role than I anticipated, but is also not all of me, which is important to remember. How do I understand and live it out? How do I not allow it to completely define me? How do I give introvert a better name in the world? I am hoping to answer all these questions as I read on.