We all experience it in one form or another. Sometimes it’s little things that happen on a daily basis, other times its a lot of change over a long or short period of time.
Regardless, we all experience it and have experiences we can share.
Sometimes when change happens, you need to be able to talk to someone who has gone through a similar change (Ex. marriage, break-up, having children, job change, move, etc…).
We all have friends and family that will listen and give advice regardless of the situation, but sometimes that’t not enough, and there is still a vacancy in our heart and minds that needs to be fulfilled.
If you are a friend of someone who is going through this, don’t be discouraged. I am actually on both sides of it right now, so I understand both perspectives.
The most important thing is to respect. Respect the friend who needs another outlet besides you, don’t be offended. And on the other side, respect the friend who cares about you and what you are going through, even if they can’t completely understand.
Being someone who has experienced quite a bit of change over the past year, it’s amazing to discover how filled up I feel after talking to those who can relate. And, it’s amazing how filled up I feel just talking to someone who cares. They are both good things, just different types of good.
Change is hard. It’s also, good, bad, different, surprising, and a myriad of other adjectives.
Change is what we make it and how we grow and learn from it. Change has a purpose.
I think the change I will always struggle with is friendships. Family is always there, regardless of a move or marriage and somehow those bonds have become stronger for me.
But with friends, for some reason, it’s different.
When change happens, we move forward, but that doesn’t mean we have to let go of the past.
But, to a point, you do.
But does that mean losing touch with dear friends? How much effort is worth it if the affections aren’t returned? When change comes, is it better to tie up loose ends and start again?
Relationships change and they take new shapes with new seasons of life. For me, that is the hardest change to swallow.
Even so, it’s always a good change to hear from a friend, whether you talked last week or last year. Never apologize, just keep trying to share the changes with those you love.
How has change impacted you recently? How have you dealt with changing relationships? What are the joys? What are the challenges?