• Advent

    What’s Expected?

    It’s amazing to me how my expectations at Christmas time vary from year to year. Many years I have tried to go all out with Christmas cards, gifts and decorations. One year I handmade 50+ Christmas cards and sent them to friends and family (how did I have time or energy to do that?). But it was enjoyable and not stressful. There have been years where I have made baked goods.  And almost every year, because of my INFJ nature, I agonize over the most perfect and practical gift for each person, as is stated so well in this article, shared by fellow blogger, Leigh Kramer on her Facebook page. More…

  • Introversion

    The Voice on the Other End

    I have discussed my disdain for talking on the phone in previous posts, I am sure of it. But for some reason, it’s a dislike that I continue to analyze and desire to figure out how to take advantage of, because it’s an important tool to connect with far away friends and family. I like talking on the phone if it means I get to catch up with an old friend, or I get to set a date to see someone when I am in town. But phone calls are also one of those things I will procrastinate until I HAVE to do them. As an introvert, whether it’s face…

  • Introversion

    Back to the Small Talk Series: Hairdressers!

    I can’t believe I didn’t think of this while writing the Small Talk Series, but I realize on my most recent visit to the hair salon, how good stylists have to be at small talk! It was a revelation that I pondered on quietly during my hair cut. Because, you see, as an introvert, I don’t mind the silence at all! Sure, I engage in the small talk, and if it’s a good stylist, they can keep the conversation going the whole time. But usually there are lulls in the conversation, which I don’t mind at all, but I always wonder if the stylist feels awkward…(and it’s my assumption that…

  • Introversion

    Small Talk Series: How to make small talk into more meaningful conversation

    My final post is about how to make small talk into more meaningful conversation. As we have learned from experience and from thoughts shared, small talk is necessary (evil or not). It’s an introduction to a relationship between two people. It’s a way to break the silence or awkwardness of a new encounter.  It provides a shallow connection, which may be sufficient, or opens the door for more in-depth conversation. So, for those of us that want to take the next step in the conversation, how do we do it? In my line of work, small talk is often with people I am familiar with and am also looking to,…

  • Introversion

    Small Talk Series: Why Small Talk is So Hard for Me

    Ok, it’s taken a little longer than planned to finish up this series, but with some input from a friend, I’ve got TWO more posts on the subject this week instead of just one! Today’s post is the answer to the question: Why is small talk so hard for me? A few books, (in recent years), have been written about introverts. Each of the following I would highly recommend, to give you a better picture from an introvert’s perspective. A fellow blogger wrote a review of the book “Quiet” by Susan Cain, here. It’s a book I started reading and just haven’t made time to finish. I would definitely recommend…

  • Introversion

    Small Talk Series: Television

    I forgot to give props to James for providing the Elevator Talk topic for the Small Talk Series. Next up: Television, recommended by Heidi G. and seconded by Greg. So, some of us watch television and some of us dont’t. Even among those of us who watch television, it varies widely what we watch. The invention of DVR and TiVo allowed us to watch our favorite shows on our own time. The invention of Facebook made it difficult to go more than a few hours without our favorite show’s plot being spoiled for us. GoT?HIMYM?SOTYCD? The acronyms are even worse. People are busy so they don’t want to spell things…

  • Introversion

    Small Talk Series: Elevator Talk

    I think I would rather listen to the elevator music than have any type of conversation while waiting to get to my destination! So….awkward. But, why? The majority of the time, you are in the elevator with complete strangers. Also, most people are thinking about where they are going, what their day holds, the next task on their to do list and a myriad of other things. No one wants to engage in conversation, especially if it’s only for a few seconds. (Unless you are an extrovert, then you just want to break the silence!) But I have had a handful of pleasant small talk conversations in elevators, especially if…

  • Introversion

    Small Talk Series: Marriage? Kids?

    Thanks to my friend, Jamie, for offering this topic up. I didn’t truly understand the extent of its awkwardness until I was married. I try to understand that for a lot of people, the natural steps to their conversations with people in relationships is: What about marriage? What about kids? And then if you decide to have one kid, they ask about the next one. But while this might be the steps two people decide to take in life, often times it’s not, or not all timed out, and/or it’s not anyone else’s business. Getting married and having kids are two topics that people have the most opinions about and…

  • Introversion

    Small Talk Series: My Facebook Status

    I knew Facebook was going to become a dreaded small talk point of conversation soon after this occurred: I had put up a mundane post about painting my newly owned home.  A few days later, someone came up me at work and asked about it.  I didn’t even remember posting about it, and then they had created this small talk conversation by knowing something about me without physically asking me. After that experience I knew two things:1) I had to be more aware of what I was posting on Facebook and;2) I had to be prepared to small talk about it. Since that post, I have learned that small talk…

  • Introversion

    Small Talk Series: The Weather

    Wow! I got such a great response when I asked the question: “What topics of small talk do you dislike?” I will have plenty to discuss in the never several entries! Please comment with your thoughts, your feedback is appreciated! First of all, let’s define “small talk”. The all-knowing Wikipedia says, “Small talk is an informal type of discourse that does not cover any functional topics of conversation or any transactions that need to be addressed.” So, as I said in the previous post, this first topic will be the one we all know and love (or hate): the weather. What I found when I typed “small talk + weather” in Google…