Too much

Sometimes I just want to quit Facebook. It’s too much.

I know some people who aren’t on it at all.
I know some people who come and go for various reasons.
I know many people who are on there 24/7.

I can’t decide which group I want to be a part of.

Sometimes I think there is danger in the time spent on it because I don’t want to overwatch other people’s lives happen, I want to experience my own. I don’t want to vicariously live through other people. I have a life that is worth something too.

I certainly have plenty going on and I like to share it with my friends on Facebook. ┬áIt is an important source of info to connect with people near and far. I’ve learned about important people from my past and their deaths and joyful celebrations that would have otherwise fallen by the wayside: both for which I am truly glad to have known about.

But I don’t like how often I log on and scroll through my newsfeed. I don’t like hearing about every moment of every person’s life. I don’t like how much of an addiction it has become.

I don’t want to completely remove myself from it, because I think it has perks and advantages, but I do want to find a healthier balance than what I am currently experiencing.

What kind of boundaries do you take with social media?

4 Comments

  1. Janet Gallo

    I have been thinking this same thing lately. I waste to much time on my phone between games and fb. The drama and the neeed to let everyone know your every move in some people drives me crazy. But I go back for more!!! Is it an addiction or just an xscape?

    • emily

      Janet – Good point! Similar to a TV shows or movies, it can be an escape from our real life and can certainly help us forget what may be going on otherwise. At the same time, just like we do our best to limit how much TV we watch or what kinds of books we read, we can control what kind of posts we are reading and how often we are doing it.

  2. Is it really an addiction to Facebook, or is our itchy feeling that we are wasting time a reflection of the relationships we’ve fractured with modern living? We are intended to be in touch–to spend time together. Facebook is a tool for connection and like the letter, telegraph, telephone and fax before it, it can be used to further relationship or abused as a simple tool that allows us to substitute surfing for the more time consuming engagements that cement friendships. It is really up to us. My boundaries include following people that I like, whose comments uplift or challenge. I make sure that I offer support, on line and in person, to friends who express concern or challenge. I offer comments of support and enjoy conversation with far flung friends and family. When I suspect I’m using games or social media or anything else that blinks and goes beep to avoid what I should be doing, I resort to an app that makes keeping my commitments and getting through my task list into a game–it’s a tool and it’s all in how we use it.

    • emily

      Jennifer – Interesting thought. I know I appreciate social media more as one who has to prepare to have conversations, even with my friends (Seriously? Yes.). But it’s also an excuse to not have more intentional relationships. I appreciate your point on this, because I don’t want my friendships to suffer because I am using social media as ab excuse to “know what’s going on in their life”, while I really don’t because I haven’t had personal conversations due to lack of motivation or laziness. Good ideas on boundaries, thanks for sharing!

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